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Start Loving Yourself – Right Now!

Start Loving Yourself -Right Now!Are you ready to start loving yourself right now? Yep, that’s right, now… not at some distant point in the future when you’ve found the holy grail of perfect weight, skin and teeth. 

Let’s get the Yucky Stuff out of the Way First

Let’s look at the negative self-talk that you’ve been subjecting yourself to, day in and day out… what’s going on in that pretty head of yours?

When you look in the mirror, what do you say to yourself?

Do you see the beautiful woman that you are or…

  • Do you shower yourself with a list of critical mean self-talk?
  • How about when you try on clothes in a dressing room?
  • How about the last time you went bathing suit shopping (shudder…)? 

Think about all the mean stuff that you tell yourself – probably every day! When did this first start? When did you first start telling yourself that you weren’t good enough, that you didn’t like how you looked or couldn’t do something because of how you looked?

 

Now I want you to ask yourself –  would you talk like this to your best friend?

Would you even think it? Would you tolerate a friend saying these things to you? Wouldn’t you think they were really mean if they said half of these mean things to you?

So why are you talking to yourself this way? Don’t waste another minute treating yourself poorly!

 

Start noticing the TONE of the voice inside your head.

You know the one – that says you’re not good enough, that you can never look like that, that it’s too hard, maybe she can do it but you can’t, you’re just not young enough/fit enough/pretty enough.

How loud is this voice in your head? What does it sound like? Who does the voice sound like (sometimes a family member or childhood teacher).

 

Try turning the volume down, way down

… and next make the tone of the voice a bit kinder, gentler, softer and more loving. Ahhhhh….. that’s better, isn’t it?

 

It’s time to start treating yourself with Love. Look in the mirror and think of all the things you love and appreciate about yourself (right now, not after you’ve become Miss Perfect Pants!).

Ex: healthy body, sexy curves, nice eyes, strong legs, clear skin, etc.

I want to challenge you to replace negative self-talk with positivity. Immediately counter negative thoughts or comments with one of the things that you love and appreciate about yourself from above.

Ex:  When your mind says “look at those fat thighs!” counter it with “look at those strong legs that allow me to be active!”

 

You’ve had a lifetime of negative self-talk, so don’t feel bad if it takes some time to turn this habit around. Just keep making yourself aware of it and remind yourself that it’s not ok with you anymore. Soon you’ll be travelling on the superhighway of self-love and acceptance.

What are some things you love and appreciate about yourself right now? Share in the comments below!

16 Responses to Start Loving Yourself – Right Now!

  1. You hit the nail on the head Liz! I just had an experience a few weeks back where I was very self conscious of the ‘size of my thighs’ (that’s a common one, eh!?)…then had two separate people at different times compliment me on my ‘strong legs’. Wow, what!! The very thing I was most self conscious of, they complimented me on! Now my goal is not to have ‘skinny legs’ but to gain even stronger ones!

  2. This is such an important topic Liz.
    Learning to master your inner critic changes everything! And it doesn’t just apply to appearance, it applies to to being seen and putting yourself out there in all kinds of ways.

    I’m a big fan of amplifying your self-love factor! I have a process called the Daily Yum that I share with clients that shifts things fast.

    Some of the things I love and appreciate about myself- My awesome purple hair. lovely eyes, nice smile, strong shoulders, boobs!!! I also have great legs, and am super smart, fun and I’m a great cook and know how to throw a party.

  3. Thank you for the solid tips about how to “turn down the volume” on negative self-talk by “noticing the tone of voice inside your head”. It is such a great reminder and is such a simple way to get our inner critic to sound a bit kinder. There are two things that I really love about myself right now:

    The first is my curly hair. It does what it wants, when it wants –swirling out of my head in gravity defying spirals. Each day it decides on a different expression of itself. It seems to that declare “I don’t care what you think; I am free!” My stylist and I decided it deserved a little pink so that it can also say “Wheeeeeee!!!”

    The second is my belly-button. Although only a simple little divot at my center, it seems to contemplate me while peacefully allowing me to contemplate it when I want to curl up and retreat for a while from the world. I put a jewel in it that twinkles at me like a secret smile.

  4. I love this! Thank you, Liz, for the reminder to be loving, kind and gentle with myself. That inner mean voice isn’t nearly as bad as it used to be, but still there sometimes for sure. 😉

    Some of the things I really love and appreciate about myself are: my gorgeous blue eyes that especially pop when I wear some of my favorite colors, my small gorgeous breasts that don’t require a bra, my long curly hair that looks just like I imagined it would, and my hot ass that looks amazing in jeans 😛

    Ahh, I am amazing! 🙂 Thank you for this reminder, Liz! 🙂

  5. This is really helpful and timely because I can really be mean to myself. I’ve been working on getting into the practice of noticing, and standing up for myself even against my inner critic 🙂

    • We all can… so silly really… I’ve found changing the tone to really help in this regard. When making it gentle doesn’t work, making it a silly cartoon-ish voice can help too – all of a sudden you’re cracking up at yourself! 🙂

  6. This is so relevant and perfect for today! We’re so hard on ourselves as women. I am learning to love myself better and say nicer things. It’s not easy, but taking a step by step approach with it. Thanks for these reminders!

  7. Oh man, when I read “bathing suit shopping” I totally shuddered, and then immediately recognized that reaction as an old story. One that no longer serves me (it never did, actually) and one that I’m so ready to let go of. Thanks for this, Liz!

    • Haha, that is a common trigger and so interesting that it brought up a shudder even though it’s an old story. Yay for letting go of old stories! 🙂

  8. Self-Love…a topic I talk about all the time. I actually just wrote an article about this for another blog.

    Taming your inner critical b*tch is crucial for everyone. Why? Because if you are always beating yourself up, how can you really thrive?

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